Be Thankful for What You Have and What Your Future Will Bring
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I’m actually home, sipping wine on Thanksgiving writing this post. As I sit back and think of everything I’m grateful for, I can’t help but wonder about a few of my friends who find it hard to be thankful.
I mean, they know they are thankful for waking up each morning. They are thankful that they know God. But some of them have never known love. And I don’t mean the kind of love where you meet a man and live happily ever after. The kind where they can say they’ve always had a mom and a dad in their lives all the time.
I know a few who were pregnant last year and some pregnant now. It’s a scary thought to know in a few short months you’re going to be responsible for this little person. It’s even scarier if you’ve never been taken care of to replicate that love.
So where does one start? You start with yourself!
- Know exactly the type of mother you want to be.
- Surround yourself with friends who will see you through the good and bad (be careful, your list should not explode past 6 people! Anything past that, they really are your associates)
- Don’t set expectations for your baby to be. Set your expectations of what you want to provide him or her.
When I had my son, I went to the store picking out cute clothing, high-tech looking bottles and pacifiers, and baby beds and dressers that barely could fit in his room! I was young and had the support of my parents. Without them, I would not have then been in the financial situation to do it all. So hey, my first child, yea, they spoiled me and of course him.
However, when he was born, oh, did reality set in.
My friends and I were all young, so at the baby shower I got all the cute little things I wanted. To my surprise, what was I going to do with those tiny diaper bags? Those cheap cute bottles? All those outfits in the dead set of winter when we weren’t going anywhere? Next winter he surely could not fit not a one! Now don’t get me wrong, some of those baby gift baskets are awesome! You just need to find the right one!
So here’s my advice to my friends scared and feeling alone.
- Talk to a responsible adult if you do not have a relationship with your parents.
- Reach out to your closest friends and ask for their honest opinion of how you are caring for yourself.
- If you’re not in a financial situation to purchase everything you want, it’s time to make a list of everything you need and have everyone support you with that.
- Don’t have everything on your Baby Shower list for the NOW. Get a few things to help you out in the future: next summer or fall. That way you’re not out trying to find them on a tight budget. Here is a good list to start, be it in your journal, an online blog, a Baby’s R Us Registry, or any other registry!
So be thankful what you have and what your future will bring.
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I love this! Being thankful is so important. It’s important to always live for today but know that great things will come in the future, even if things some grim at times <3
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I think every mother wants the cutest outfits for their new baby, but that has to be tempered with function and affordability. It is certainly helpful to have parents or good friends to reel you in. Good suggestions!
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Great post and tips. I always buy something for now and later for baby showers.
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This is a very insightful post. Sometimes it is good to sit back and reflect on what we have, what we need, and where we want to get too. I often try to reflect at the end of each month to make sure that I am on track, recognize what I have accomplished, and make adjustments to goals when needed.
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Love this post!!! So very important to take a step back and see all the fabulousness we have to be thankful for!
I think you make some very good points regarding motherhood. It’s so easy to get caught up in what we expect our children to be, that we don’t allow them to be who they are. You are spot on!
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It is a great idea to give things new moms will need in the future. So many people give things for a new born.
Great post! Becoming a new mother is a scary thing. I think these tips will be helpful to all new moms!
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we have been married for 4 and a half years almost.. and every year we tell ourselves to push it back a year. we’re both pretty terrified bc life as you know it changes. and i feel like even if you know what kind of mother you want to be.. to actually be that person is an entirely different thing.
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I went overboard with the baby clothing before my first child was born. I quickly learned that babies grow fast! 🙂
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It is very important to be thankful for what you have and not waste time on things you dont have things you wish you had. I agree love starts within yourself and usually made easier if you had someone to show is to you growing up.
Gratitude is one of the most powerful tool in contentment. Thank you for the post!
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Great advice! I always try to think of something practical to bring to a baby shower. 🙂
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This is some really great advice. Thanks for sharing your tips to a better life. Always needed.
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